Parenting: Raising Respectful Kids
Raising children to respect others, begins with respecting themselves.
What happens when children do not respect who they are?
They seek out counterfeit love –
Girls become sexually aggressive at a young age. . .
I spoke with a young lady who said, “I like a new guy, he’s great and he’s 16.” You might be thinking “Well, that’s not too old”, but she’s only 13 and a young 13 at that. Goodness!
I looked her in the eyes and said, “You have to be kidding me, you’re dating?”
“Well”, she started off, “It’s not like we go out a lot of places or anything, but I like him so much. So we get together whenever we can.”
It must have been pretty obvious with my mouth wide open and deer in the headlights look that I wasn’t leaning her direction anytime soon to offer positive feedback to this discussion, I mean “Really!” A thirteen-year-old should not be thinking about the opposite sex, they should be keeping up with the latest and greatest cartoons, learning how to cook under mom or dad’s teaching and watching Veggie Tales!
Boys are missing reins-of-respect. . .
Glance at many of the videos streaming the web and it’s not hard to find one with a young man speaking words of disrespect. It seems the more disrespect the more “viral” the video.
Maybe I’m asking too much from the youth of today, right?
Whatever it takes, especially today, we must preserve the innocence of our young people, not with coercion and threats but through active day-to-day participation and sound guidance from mom and dad.
“According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 24 million children in America — one out of every three — live in biological father-absent homes.” (Stat source Father Facts)
Imagine, neighborhoods filled with girls who have never had a daddy say, “You are beautiful and precious” or boys learning how to “be a man” from peers who don’t have a clue.
Is it any wonder, we have babies birthing babies and young people taking their own lives…
The truth is if a child buys into the world’s lies, they see no other options.
Here are three words you can use to help turn the heads and hearts of your young person towards GOD…precious, valuable, and worthy.
“Jane, you are precious to me.”
“Sam, your words are valuable. I trust your opinion son.”
“You are worthy in the eyes of GOD, Shea. Always remember who loves you more than life.”
Simple statements of truth, touch hearts.
Give it a try. Don’t overwhelm your child with a dissertation on living a good life –speak bite-sized truth into him every moment you can.
See you at the front-door where life is always #REAL… Linda