Children grow up too fast. I know I did, and it’s only gotten worse.
(Guest Blogger – Kelly Harris)
This was made #REAL when my third grader said her classmates were kissing… and assured me it wasn’t a “friend kiss.” I thought that was too young… then my four-year-old chimed in about marriage.
Puppy-love gone preschool… NO! Make it stop!
Parenting pause,” Respond, Kelly… don’t react.”
What’s a parent to do? As Linda says, “We aren’t the truth, rather, we point to Truth.” How could truth be applied to such a deep topic yet maintain innocence?
I prayed, “Lord, give me the words and the opportunity to make this point clear and pure enough that You would be glorified.”
Later that day, we went to the park, a pecan fell almost scratching my nose, still green in its husk. The girls giggled because it nearly hit me and I was excited. God was answering my prayer.
“Just imagine girls,” I said my heart dancing with joy, “the squirrels playing over our heads in the tree caused that pecan to fall because God wants us to talk about something very important.”
I challenged them to see how fast they could find twenty pecans.
As they rushed the nuts to my shirt basket I asked, “What’s different about these pecans?”
“This one is green,” Kayla said. “It looks like it should still be in the tree.”
“Mine has a bite outta it!” Haley looked closely at the nut then screeched, “Ewwww! A bug!”
We noticed many were still on the trees, not yet ready to be eaten.
“What do you think?” I asked, “Would the green and the brown pecans taste the same?”
Both felt the color shouldn’t make a difference.
Did someone say experiment? We worked hard to crack them. That’s no easy task. The green pecan was never letting us in. Another in a brown husk took nearly fifteen minutes to crack for a taste.
I’m glad the manners police weren’t around because as soon as the nut hit their mouths –oh yeah!
Warning: Girls Spit Too!
They would not taste the ripe pecan until I did. Which, after tasting, they decided was the better choice and incidentally much easier to crack.
“Did you know the bible tells us not to open love until the time is right and that love was the greatest gift from God.”
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right. Song of Solomon 8:4 (NLT)
Three things will last forever- Faith, hope, and love- and the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NLT)
“You mean like we can’t open presents before birthdays?” Haley’s big eyes looked intently at mine.
“Kinda,” I said, “both of you have spoken about kissing and marriage. But it’s not time. Like the pecan, that wasn’t ready to come out of its shell. Love is God’s best gift and it won’t be as good if you open it too early.”
They were done with our little lesson and ran off for playtime. And I praised God for the opportunity to point to Truth.
Father, I praise You for these little moments. The ways you allow me to point to You as I go about my day with my children. Your faithfulness amazes me.
While parenting rarely utilizes nuts in this way, how has God met you as a parent in a crazy way?
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Bountiful blessings to you and your family… Kelly